IS IT LOVE?

Love.. A four letter word ., a short word yet it has huge meaning to it. It can mean parental love, love between lovers, family love, love for a friend, love between spouses, love for pets..

Some people may mistook the meaning of love. Some interpret obsessions for another as being in love for him/her. When such occur, the other party might feel being forced into the relationship which do not allowed him/her some space or time to do what they like. Everyone loves spending time chatting up with friends, making new friends, gossiping, hanging out with friends they have known half of their lives. As such, sadness are buried deep inside for his/her loss of freedom. He/she lives in a lonely world with only the existence of the other party. Is it love? Being in love is a beautiful moment, a never-ending moment full of brightness in your life, understanding of each other's needs and wants, being your own self... Some fear of losing the person dearest to them so they become over possessive without realising they have already lost their love.

Sometimes love is interpreted in poems or in stories. One I heard of many years ago goes like this :-

Both boy and girl was sitting on the swings. Not a word was said through out their time spent together. When it was time to leave , they both felt they have said so much and left with a sense of fulfillment and happiness.

Sometimes " Silence is Golden ". Not many have the same chance as the boy and girl above. When it does happen, you will treasure that memories you both shared.

My uncle told me his secret for a successful marriage is " to be deaf and mute whenever your auntie speaks ". I laughed at his advise but I know there is no better way to handle a woman than being deaf and mute.

I heard my friend advising another to keep track of her spouse's movement, to be with him as much as possible,... "Always be seen with him" she said. This is to prevent any extra activities that might happen between the husband and " a woman who has not existed yet". Everyone will know who his wife is. They believed if their husband falls head over heels with another, they will lost his love . Children is their only excuses for doing so. However, men will always consider their family as their one and only treasure that cannot be "Bought". His children will bear his surname. He must protect and care for them. Women must try to be tackful when handling situation like this, try to be more understaning towards your spouse, give him space for breathing, to be around his friends. Alot of women are giving excuses such as above for their doings. They know they should not be doing such things to stress her husband but children is always the ' reason '. I find this is only an excuse. In actual fact, they are afraid of being embarrassed or ridicule by their friends. They are afraid that they will have shortage of money once their husband love another. Deep down they do know their husbands will always care for the children first. It is themselves that they are most worried of. Would they still have the "power to negotiate". Women as such lacks of self esteem, do not like to mix with friends, but they are good at saving money for rainy days.

Is this Love? Would you like to be in the husband's shoes? Being judge and punish before a crime happen.