ABUSIVE MEN

I was circling for nearly 30 minutes looking for a space to park my car when I saw a man, a small kid around 2 year + old and his wife walking very fast to their car. They were walking as if they are running for cover from the rain but it was a sunny day. Imagine my excitement to see a car park space available for me ~ soon.

Quickly, setting my car signal to "reserve" the space, I noticed they were taking very long to move. The windows were slightly tinted. I look again and to my shock! I saw him throwing her handbag at her face. She was sitting at the back whilst the kid was in the front seat. Of course, her husband is in the driver's seat.  He threw her handbag to her face when she last went into the car. She touched her face , said something (i think) and he turn to the back and slapped her so hard few times that their car was like a bit rocking. After the constant slapping, pulling her hair, he strangled her! .. for quite sometime. Then I saw the kid crying and climbing to the back to her mother. I was so shocked I just dont know what to do. To continue waiting, to approach their car pretending to ask if i can have their car park space asap or to ignore and leave. But i have already circled the entire block for a space to park for so long I dont feel like giving up this space. One car is already at the back of me, the driver too didnt dare to honk , I think he saw what I saw too..  So I move my car to park behind this abusive man's car. When he saw that he stop beating up his wife and quickly reverse his car and sped off. I cant imagine what he will do to her when they get home.

I decided to reverse my car into the empty parking lot. While keeping my signal on, slowly reversing into the empty lot, one guy just drove quickly into that lot and nearly knock my car. I was so annoyed, I open my car door and told him I was reversing to the space and he should  not have just drove into it. He was actually laughing at me! can you imagine that?? what kind of world is this? what happen to mankind? I was so so annoyed I told him to move his car, he said something that i cannot hear. But from his body language and waving hands, I think he told me he has already park and my car was not even the space, only had a signal on. However, after witnessing the drama of the abusive husband, I really do not have good impression of men who do not respect women. And this idiot driver definitely fits the category so I argue with him and lastly he walk up to his car, open the car door, put his key in the ignition, turn , start up the engine yet he is still standing outside the car nagging some words that I can barely hear.

Thats how I got my space back. I noticed that these bullies will only bully the weak. Not many will actually stop them from taking the space. If this would have happen to my other half, he will just drive off grumbling some uneducated driver stole his car park space.

Geezz... I really don't understand why some men need to be abusive ~ at all irregardless to whom.

Few years back, I heard an acquaintance of mine was abuse by her husband. Her husband works in a bank, a very quiet man, mild mannered and soft spoken. Then her mother taught her son in law a lesson by engaging few gangsters to beat him up each and every time he lay a hand on her daughter. That helps to stop the beating and ended up with a divorce. Luckily she was able to divorce him.

To all the women or even men who has been or is still being abuse by someone you trust to take care of you or love, do not be afraid or ashamed to tell your friends about it. If you dont feel comfy telling someone you know, look for the "Help" call centre and talk to someone. Take the big step and leave the guy or woman. If he/she truly loves or want to take care of you, he/she would not have hurt you in the first place. Wake up! Its happening to you now, what if your children is next??